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Camping in Kiptopeke State Park

April 11, 2026

Inaugural camping trip of 2026 set the bar HIGH

Virginia, I love you. I love your mountains, I love your coastlines, I love your universities, I love (most of) your cities, I love your small towns, I love your mourning doves, I love your dogwood trees, I love the James River, I love the Chesapeake, I love, love, love you, Virginia!

Sorry, just had to get that out of the way. Last weekend, Gravy, New Person, and I fled Richmond for a weekend of camping on the Eastern Shore. 

Kiptopeke State Park was our glorious host, and she did not disappoint. I'd never been to the Eastern Shore—the little strip of land separated from the rest of the Commonwealth by the Chesapeake Bay, home to the famed Chincoteague ponies (and the same-named National Wildlife Refuge, NBD). 

It was much easier to access than I thought, thanks to the 18(!) mile-long bridge-tunnel that connects the peninsula to Hampton Roads. Eighteen miles of bridge is...a lot of bridge. (Apparently, there used to be a restaurant and fishing pier in the middle of it that were recently shuttered because they're expanding the bridge? Honestly, kinda pissed I never had the chance to eat there....what a cool gimmick! Kind of the coastal American version of dining inside the Eiffel Tower, no?) Anyway.

We arrived late on Friday night—delayed not once but twice by stagnant McDonald's drive thrus. Not entirely sure why the universe felt the need to really protect me from my filet o' fish, but I (eventually) accepted and (begrudgingly) appreciated her guidance. (We went to Taco Bell instead.)

So, the fun really started Saturday morning. The weather was beyond perfect—blue, cloudless skies, warm but not hot. After a glorious camp breakfast of egg burritos, we decided to walk down to the closest boardwalk and (finally!) lay eyes on the water. The universe (undoubtedly feeling guilty for my numerous filet 'o fish disappointments the night before) gave us a special gift: a pod of dolphins bellying up to the breakfast buffet right in front of us! 
At first, we only saw one lone dolphin bobbing through the waves. I was halfway to convincing myself this was about to become a Nim's Island situation where this dolphin was lonely and abandoned and we were going to be her new, unfortunately human but still very lovable, best friends when we spotted 3 others in a tighter grouping behind her. (The gasp of delight that NP and I let out simultaneously when we spotted the others could've registered on the Richter scale.) 

We watched until the mini-pod was out of sight to return to our campsite and prepare more properly for the day.
Picture shows Kate smiling, eyes closed, post-dolphin elation still evident on her face, smartly framed by two slender cedar trees and the thick swath of blue water behind her by a smart photographer with a keen eye for detail who is definitely not writing this certainly unbiased caption.

One of the as-yet untasted fruits of last summer's hobby shopping was the deceptively enormous and bulky bag at the bottom of the trunk containing my inflatable paddle board/kayak and related accessories. (As yet another feeble attempt to liberate myself from the patriarchal economic system, I received the set as an alternate form of payment for a relatively benign week of dog- and housesitting that occurred during Wave III of Finding Myselfin which I was attempting to "get back to nature" and "embrace my coastal roots." Mind you, my mother sent me to an expensive (and Jesus-y) surf camp as a child and, over the course of that week, I made 19 sandcastles because I refused to get in the water even once. Sorry, Mom! (...and Jesus?))

I was feeling quite shy and shrunk away from the water under the imaginary weight of the eyes of the handful of other beachgoers. I couldn't get the image of me tumbling ass-over-tea kettle off my board, not to mention the graceless gymnastics it would take to get back on my board. Luckily, a gaggle of kayakers soon paddled around the inlet into our little cove and I borrowed their courage to get on my board for its inaugural journey. It was so f*cking fun! I didn't go very far, focusing as I was on reactivating the long-dormant muscle memory of oar mechanics.

I have no idea where my occasional, deep-set fear of water comes from, especially as a lifelong competitive (and leisure) swimmer. I lived in the water growing up! One summer, our family's black lab, Ellie, was diagnosed with a nasty case of swimmer's tail because she was trying to keep up with my gleeful paddling around and around my grandparents' pool. And yet, I bailed on my final scuba certification dive/test in high school (sorry, Mr. Carlson!) and I didn't actually get into the ocean until very recently.

I don't fear drowning if I fall off my board, the way I did when scuba diving, though I know there are lifeguards and ocean rescuers tsking at me right now. It's the ingrained fear of embarrassment, of which I am, naturally, embarrassed to admit. Sigh. Anyway, NP took a turn on the board and—the highlight of my year so far—I went paddling with Gravy, too! 
I was so focused on not tipping us into the water, I almost missed NP's frantic waving from the beach. Turns out, the dolphins had returned and I was unawaredly paddling....very close to one of them. (I'd like to think it was my fiercely independent friend from the morning.) I was so focused on safely and expeditiously getting out of their way, it wasn't until I was back on shore that I reflected on how magical it was to be so close to such a majestic, intelligent creature.

That afternoon, we made some camp lunch (veggie hot dogs FTW) and took a leisurely drive up the road to Cape Charles for some ice cream and sightseeing. It wasn't too long before I was in heavy need of a nap, though, so we returned to camp and I promptly fell asleep in the hammock. Gilligan's Island, who? 
TW: toes
We rounded out our perfect day with another walk, through the canopy this time. Then, NP made dinner on the fire, which was both wildly impressive and turned out madly delicious. A pescatarian take on cowboy campfire dinner, we had little roasted potatoes, ahi tuna steaks (and a little tuna fillet for Gravel!), and green beans. I showed NP how to make Girl Scout cherry pie for dessert (cinnamon graham crackers + canned cherry pie filling) and we fell asleep nestled into each other under the stars. 

Eager to scoop every bit of enjoyment out of our time, we hit the beach again on Sunday morning. I somehow coaxed NP into plunging beneath the water with me, but the waves were much choppier, so paddling was out of the question. The kicked-up wind gusts brought another surprise from Mother Nature, though: a real, live bald eagle!
I didn't believe we were actually witnessing a bald eagle in the wild until NP snapped this photo. I mean...a bald eagle?! The entire time we watched, the eagle never once flapped its wings, instead riding the gusts of wind. It was so masterful and graceful and moved with ease...am I a bird person now?? It was astonishing.

In my yoga class on Wednesday, undoubtedly inspired by my sight of the majestic creature, we practiced garudasana (eagle asana) and I couldn't help it, I had to tell the class about my weekend sighting. One of my semi-regular patrons spoke up, then, and said the James River has the highest concentration of nesting bald eagles in the United States outside of Alaska! The more you know. 

Cover photo credit @graciedavis27 

Kate's Perfect Day 2026

February 14, 2026

If it's February, it's time for another round of Kate's Perfect Day!

Somehow, my chosen birthday celebration gets better every year. I have 0 clue how that's even possible! Proof this year was even more fantastic than last? I have TWO PHOTOS of the entire day. That's it! That's all!

Photo proof number 1: 

Like last year, I made my own birthday cake. It's so fun! I jammed to Rusted Root's "Send Me On My Way" on repeat while I was baking—it really made me feel like I was having my main character moment. I went even bigger this year, tackling Sally's three-layer homemade funfetti cake. I made only 1 swap to her recipe: 2 teaspoons of vanilla + 1 teaspoon of almond extract. My loved ones raved about this cake! 

Sally means it when she says you need to eat this cake basically as soon as you make it, though—it does NOT keep. I baked mine on Friday morning, frosted in the afternoon, and refrigerated until Saturday morning. I took it out of the fridge ~10:30 and we cut into it ~4pm. It was delectable, although the texture was particularly of note (at least to me). I tried to sneak a bite of it on Sunday night as the last 2 pieces hung out in the fridge and it was stale. You snooze, you lose!

Saturday morning was bright, sunny, and frigid. I was sooo grateful for Evan, Molly, Grace, Cameron, Liv, and Erin who all trekked through tundra winds to have a pancake slumber party breakfast with me and Gravy Boat. 

New Person assigned themself chef for the day and was hard at work dishing up blueberry, chocolate chip, and mini M&M pancakes, scrambled eggs, and fried potatoes as I yapped with my friends. (Having a partner who works in food service is definitely a life hack. I have EIGHT cold smoked salmon fillets in my fridge right now #bragging) Soon enough, we'd eaten our fill and decided to play a round (or five) of Peanuts.

Photo proof number 2: 

I love my apartment to bits, but it's not really built for entertaining. My friends were such good sports and gathered on the floor around my piano bench to learn how to play the game. It was a hoot! I've never played with such a large group before and the chaos was wildly entertaining. 

Peanuts is, basically, competitive solitaire and I've gone wild teaching my loved ones how to play. I taught Jess & Tessa in Maine over the summer, Evan and Jolie while we were camping last November, my grandmother and my aunt over Christmas break...if you can't find me, it's because I'm busy spreading the gospel of Peanuts. 

The sole consistent element across three years of observing Kate's Perfect Day is a midday peruse through my go-to bookstore in RichmondThere, I caught up with Michael (I think he uses KPD solely as an excuse to browse their baller "used classics" shelf, no shade), my freshman roommate, Elisa, and her husband, Driscoll! I was gobsmacked El & D made the journey for me—I don't think I've seen them since their wedding!

There's a very niche kind of joy that settles over me when I'm browsing a bookstore and I look up to see one of the people I love most in the world also studying titles and flipping through pages. It makes me feel so contented and at ease, like I know that everyone is exactly where they are supposed to be in that moment. 

Tessa joined us at City Dogz—the only place (at least, that I know of) where I can order a vegetarian chili dog. Sometimes, the 21st century IS good! We finally cut into the cake and played a few more rounds of Peanuts after lunch—a much needed lowkey vibe in the rush of energy that is KPD. 

We migrated to Mom's house for our final event of the day: make-your-own pizzas and Matilda, one of the most Kate-ish movies ever made. Mom's house is much more suitable for hosting (she has more than 2 chairs, the show-off) and she actually owns a pizza oven (one of the best Christmas gifts I've ever given, tbh). New Person donned their chef hat again and helped Mom stretch the dough and maneuver the pies inside the 900° oven as I caught up with Leah, Harry, Willa, and Katie. 

Above everything else, Kate's Perfect Day is one of my favorite days of the year because I get to connect—however briefly!—with the people I cherish most in this world. I've collected my loved ones like art pieces over the years...at KPD this year, I had 2 college roommates; a coworker that has become my older brother; a college friend who started the knitting group that has ignited a whole new obsession for me recently; 2 Richmond friends I met as part of a relatively absurd and wonderful theme-party circuit we all somehow landed on; a friend I used to run around campus and take pictures with for our HONY-style blog; a friend I taught 9th grade English with in New York what feels like a lifetime ago; a couple I met when we worked weddings together for whom I got to take graduation and wedding pictures; a friend my mother still exclusively refers to as "the boy who lives in his car" (he goes camping a lot); a Hinge date that has become a friend; and a Hinge date that has become my lover (shoutout New Person). 

I feel so loved, valued, honored, challenged, and bolstered by my friends & family and I know my year will be incredible when I start it with a day that also celebrates them.

New Person took this photo of me a few days before Kate's Perfect Day, but I think it captures the joyful essence of this day perfectly. I felt like this all day on KPD! 

26 Hard Things in 2026

January 3, 2026

Here we go again! I felt well accomplished with my 25 hard things in 2025 so why interrupt a good thing?

26 Hard Things in 2026

  1. Read 50 books
  2. Find my mat 26 days in a row 
  3. Ride in the RAGBRAI
  4. Go for 26 swims 
  5. Have 26 incredible meals 
  6. Set an intention for each month 
  7. Eat 2-6 different fruits & vegetables each week 
  8. Begin (& COMPLETE) 2-6 arts and crafts projects 
  9. Observe 1 silent hour every day 
  10. Go further north than I ever have before (on this continent, anyway) 
  11. Go camping 5 times 
  12. Choose the brave path every time 
  13. Host 2-6 parties 
  14. Go on a retreat 
  15. Notice 26 times I'm delighted by/with a stranger
  16. Complete the first draft of the roadmap 
  17. No background shows when I'm working 
  18. Visit a Buddhist temple 
  19. Notice 26 times I didn't let my figs rot 
  20. Use my paddle board 2-6 times 
  21. Go dancing at least once 
  22. Make friends with falling 
  23. Redetermine my relationship with my practice
  24. Write & send 26 letters, notes, cards, or postcards
  25. Investigate the pleasure of delayed gratification and restraint 
  26. Make pasta at home at least once 

Fall 2025 Reads

December 29, 2025

The wheels fell off my bus sometime around September and I'm not even totally sure why! The last few weeks of this year have been an utter whirlwind (to put it nicely) and it's kind of a miracle I managed to get any reading done at all. 'Tis also why I'm shoehorning the last three months of books into this 1 lengthy post! 

The book I wish I read 10 years ago

Not that my 17 year old self would've been able to truly appreciate Cheryl Strayed's sage advice...Cheryl Strayed's Wild is one of my favorite memoirs EVER and I was surprised that I'd never come across TBT before this year. 

Grief is a tumultuous journey. Multiple times this year I thought I was finally done schlepping the familiar weight of its mantle only to feel it settle back on my shoulders. In September, I found myself lugging it around again. I resumed my perpetual search for a balm. (Translation: I googled "books for heartbreak reddit.") Thank you, Reddit user inga_the_leopard for this baller recommendation.

This book is a collection of (some of) Cheryl Strayed's advice columns that she answered under the name "Dear Sugar." One letter, in particular, felt like Cheryl reached through the pages, grabbed me by the collar, and shook me to pay attention. In that picture, you can see a glimpse of blue writing on my hand—it's part of her advice in that letter! I have recommended this book to at least two people on their own journeys with grief since then and I seriously think everyone should read it.

Island claustrophobia x1000


I've never done an escape room (unless you count getting stuck in 2 locked bathrooms as a child, #trauma), but this novel IS one. A fiercely claustrophobic read that takes place on a practically deserted island near Antarctica, this thriller starts off incredibly strong and fades slowly over the course of the story. I was surprised (in a...disappointed way, I think) by the ending—the whole resolution happened so quickly! 

Meet the Salt family: the sole (human) residents of this island, the final stewards of a world seed bank buried deep in the rock of the island that is threatened by rising sea levels. All communication methods have been mysteriously destroyed and a heavy aura of suspicion hangs over the entire island. In the middle of a violent storm, a woman washes up on the rocks, barely alive. Who is this woman? Why is she here? How did she GET here? Why do Dominic and his children seem like they're hiding something? What happened to the entire team of researchers that used to maintain the seed bank? Why is Raff, the oldest, so angry? Why does Fen, the only daughter, prefer to sleep on the beach with the seals? Why does Orly, the youngest, talk to the wind and dark corners as if talking to a person? How is this family possibly going to transition to life as part of a society after so much isolation? Why does this island stink of death? 

I did really appreciate that this was such a patient novel—Charlotte was extremely restrained with the story and it served the plot well. I loved that each character had their own motivations that are slowly revealed to us as the story goes on, but the ending still stays with me...I'm just not sure it works! (But maybe that's just because I wanted a happy ending...)

Content warning: assault

Magical realism gang assemble


This book made me feel the same way I did the first time I read Percy Jackson. That could be the whole review, TBH, because doesn't that say it all? 

Leigh, who is a Yale grad herself—which adds a deliciously vindictive energy to the whole thing, turns the famed Ivy's group of secret societies into an entire magical (under)world, replete with secret rituals and ancient artifacts. The system of magic is complex AF and Leigh navigates it with such skill that I never felt lost. There's also a much larger commentary at play over the tangible influence these secret societies (and Ivies in general) have in the Real World, which never feels scolding even as it refuses to absolve each individual actor from blame. 

Ninth House follows Alex (an Outsider™) who seems to be the ultimate renegade choice to serve as the next Yale magical hall monitor (I'm bastardizing a bit here, but that's the gist). And yet, she is! Leigh drops us into the middle of the action and somehow things just continue to ramp the f*ck up. There's murder, conjuring, ghosts, reanimated corpses, glamours, disgusting frat bros, the library from Beauty & the Beast, creepy mansions, tarot cards....AND THAT ENDING! Okay, I did accurately peg the true villain at the heart of the plot around page 200 (of ~400). That didn't ruin my enjoyment, though! And it's been a really long time since I read a book that ended on such a stark cliffhanger that I felt such an immediate itch to read the sequel.

A practical guide to walking through the world with reverence & purpose


My love for Barbara Brown Taylor is hardly a secret. This is the second book of hers I've read in 2025 and I've listened to countless interviews and podcast episodes featuring her. Barbara is a true scholar of religion, belief, and hope. An ordained Episcopal minister, Barbara left the church to pursue teaching and quickly discovered the value of immersing herself and her students in religious traditions from other faiths and cultures. One of the results from her lifetime of exploration is this book: a field manual for mindfulness. 

You do not have to maintain any kind of ecumenical practice to gain value from Barbara's words. I'm still thinking about her chapter about blessings—who is "allowed" to give them, why they matter to us so much, and her description of a through house blessing that makes me feel at peace just thinking about it. Her voice is also SO calming that this entire audiobook felt like a 16 hour guided meditation.

For the Costco lovers


Emily's paternal grandmother is a hoarder, her dad is a compulsive shopper, and she has come of age in a time of utter American excess. Her probing investigation of her own relationship with bulk is also an investigation of what it means to be American in this day and age. It all makes for an uncomfortable read...I felt itchy and experienced several provoked moments of scorn, which is probably what Emily was going for! 

As she shared in an encompassing interview with Anne Helen Petersen"Bulk shares DNA with consumer culture and mass culture, but it is sweatier, denser, fleshier than those things. Bulk culture is Costco, but it is also fat camp, hoarding, haul videos on Youtube, sweepstakes, an Amazon review that accidentally reveals a deep well of anguish. Bulk culture isn’t wealth, or riches—it’s stuff...Our love and pain and dysfunction speaks the language of stuff...To me, bulk is too personal to be written like a scourge, too fraught to be written like a haven. It’s just an American ethos that sits very close to the bone. I wanted to write about stuff the way you would write about your family: tenderly, critically, curiously. Like something you’re a part of, even if you don’t always want to be." 

Bearing witness to technology's increasing invasion of everyday life


I don't claim this as a point for or against this read, but one of my annotations was "did I actually write this book?" 

This book brilliantly accounts for the qualitative losses brought about by the increasing colonization of daily life by technology. (I don't use the word "colonization" lightly here because I join thinkers including Eve Tuck and K. Wayne Yang in critiquing the "invasion" of the term as an act that "recenters whiteness" and "entertains a settler future." See: Tuck, Eve and K. Wayne Yang. “Decolonization is not a metaphor.” Decolonization: Indigeneity, Education & Society 1, no. 1 (2012): 1-40.) Highly recommend this book for anyone waging a battle against technology in their lives, or especially as a reference point when arguing with people who want to know more about why you're anti-tech overreach. 

As much as I loved this book and I'm glad to have it on my shelf...I still find myself stymied by the lack of NEW information I'm gleaning :/ I experienced this feeling a few times this year with Vauhini Vara's Searches, Amanda Hess' Second Life, and Eula Biss' Having and Being Had...maybe I'm expecting too much?

A brutal struggle between the romantics and the realists


This is an ugly play, TBH. Blanche—a neurotic southern belle with a drinking problem—arrives at her sister Stella's place, which Stella shares with Stanley—a brooding, calculated, angry man. Blanche slowly loses her grip on reality over the course of the play, prodded in no small part by Stanley. 

The problem of reading plays that you have never experienced on the stage is the extra work it takes to envision the staging and your utter inability to tell if your projections are accurate to the playwright's intentions. I rely on the discussions I have about plays that I read with my friends (several of whom are certified theater nerds and have see the play on stage) and by reading the reviews and light scholarship about the work online. (TBH Reddit is not a terrible forum for that task!) 

A gag gift that's actually quite good


Tinx (real name: Christina Najjar) is an influencer and DJ who dispenses a lot of dating advice for gals in their 20s. This book was a gift after I graduated with my Master's in 2024, accompanied by a note that read: "to figure out what's next!" I was not single then—the gift was actually from my partner! It was meant as a cheeky nod to the fact that I used to work with Tinx's brother in New York, which is how I learned about her. 

I slid the book onto my shelf after graduation and honestly forgot all about it! Then, a few weeks ago, I was looking for something lighthearted to read in the bath and my eyes landed on the bright pink spine. Why not? 

TLDR: I read the entire book that night, beginning in the bath and ending wrapped in a towel on my bed. Tinx's advice is salient and she writes well! (I shouldn't be surprised considering the high literary aptitude of her brother.) It's not easy to strike a conversational tone across an entire book without it falling flat, but Tinx manages it. This was an easy, quick read and contained cute nuggets of advice. (I've officially started keeping my own crush list!) I love a book that makes me feel like I'm part of a sisterhood without being cloying, yknow?

The coziest read of the year


Full disclosure: I chose this book for one of my book clubs and I completely worried that I had f*cked up within the first 25 pages because this book has a rather unsteady beginning....luckily, I was WRONG! It was a great read.

I want to live in this book. Like literally crawl inside the atmosphere Hwang Bo-Reum (and translator Shanna Tan) created and fully set up shop forever. The epitome of an encompassing read (I could seriously SMELL the coffee Minjun makes as I read it...), this book is also highly existential in the tradition of a great deal of contemporary East Asian authors, as I've discovered lately. We join the characters grappling with all the big questions we each have to ask ourselves about what it means to live a good life, how to manage expectations, and how to be true to yourself. 

Would you go back in time to kill baby H*tler? as a book concept


My love affair with vintage Stephen King continues with The Dead Zone (picked up at Sherman's Books in Maine!). Johnny Smith suffers a small skating accident as a child, knocking his head against the ice—not hard enough to cause the rural Mainers around him to take him to the hospital but just hard enough for him to develop a latent psychic ability.

His sleeping clairsentience awakens after a brutal taxi accident that leaves him near death in a lengthy coma. When he awakens (already a miracle), Johnny discovers that he has vivid flashes of events he couldn't possibly otherwise know when he touches the people around him. He predicts fires, presidential elections, and, eventually, the end of the world as we know it when he shakes the hand of one particularly nefarious politician. What is Johnny to do?!

King is at his best here—the exposition is detailed but not overly lengthy, the pacing keeps your attention, and the violence is brutal and quick.

Heady spiritual theory from a tainted source

Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism by ChΓΆgyam Trungpa (free access to the complete text via Internet Archive)

This book is a series of transcribed lectures delivered by disgraced guru ChΓΆgyam Trungpa about the tendency for the ego to "convert anything to its own use...even spirituality." A dense tract of thoughts and practices, there are recorded Q&As at the end of each chapter that help illuminate some of the more complex concepts. 

Unfortunately, I discovered after having read this book that Trungpa was an abusive predator who created an entire spiritual community that protected him from the law as he preyed on minors, assaulted women, and committed other acts of violence. The Canadian news source The Walrus published a comprehensive report of Trungpa's life, rise to power, his multiple abuses of said power, and the continued impact on the lives of people who have interacted with the Shambhala organization. 

The introduction to the book was written by Trungpa's son, who became the heir apparent to his Shambhala legacy and has also been accused of sexual assault. I'm honestly not sure how this information impacts my understanding of this text nor its continued place on my shelf. I initially found this text useful for adding depth to my own practice, but I am not a blanket believer that you can divorce the art from the artist nor the teachings from the predator. I will continue to think about this as I continue along the journey of my practice.

I purchased this book secondhand and, if you are interested in reading it, I highly recommend finding your own secondhand copy or accessing it at the link above via Internet Archive to avoid monetarily supporting the Shambhala organization. 

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25 Hard Things in 2025: A Year in Review


 A glance back at another year of challenges! How did your resolutions go this year?

25 Hard Things in 2025:
1.Master the alphabet + a basic conversation in ASL achieved! Though I could stand a refresher/continuous practice. 
2. Swim 25 miles — not achieved. I swam 5 miles this year—only 20 off my goal!
3. Go camping 5 times — not achieved. I went camping 3 times in 2025, to Ocracoke with Gravy at Acadia in July, and in Shenandoah National Park in November! 
4. Read 50 books — achieved! And I reviewed them all here on the blog, you're welcome :)
5. Feel confident playing 5 songs on the piano — not achieved. My self-perpetuated piano practice fell off after a few months. 
6. Take 5 Italian lessons — not achieved. 
7. Take 1 solo vacation — achieved! Gravy and I went camping on Ocracoke over Memorial Day weekend.
8. Watch 25 documentaries — not achieved. I watched 6: the Lily Phillips documentary on YouTube; Toni Morrison: The Pieces I Am; Buy Now! The shopping conspiracy; All Light, Everywhere; The Quilters; and My Mom Jayne.
9. Bake 25 loaves of bread — not achieved. I baked 7 loaves this year, though I lost track so it could honestly be more...
10. Do 1 volunteer shift somewhere in person — achieved! I volunteered for 2 opportunities with my alma mater, including speaking at Lavender Graduation to welcome new graduates to the queer alumni association and being part of an alumni panel at Campus Recreation. 
11. Try 25 new recipes — achieved! I'm not sure why, but every time I attempt this resolution I stop keeping track of new recipes sometime around 15. 
12. Read 3 books in Italian — not achieved. 
13. Host a dinner party — achieved! I actually hosted 2 this year: an evening of sushi making for Kate's Perfect Day and my Stanley Tucci dinner party in September.
14. Send 25 letters or postcards — not achieved. I sent 14 letters to pals this year! 
15. Find my mat every day — not achieved. 
16. Visit my grandfather 5 times — not achieved. 
17. Pay off my student loan — achieved! 
18. Watch 25 “classic” movies — not achieved, unless you count watching White Christmas eight times this season.
19. Publish 25 blog posts — not achieved. I got really close, though! And I've thoroughly enjoyed reviving this space this year. 
20. Forgive myself 25 times — achieved! 
21. Go to a fair (ren fair, state fair….) — achieved! I went to the Maryland Renaissance Fair in September with Corrine, Tessa, Sam, and Julia. 
22. Visit a lighthouse — achieved! I've actually been to TWO lighthouses this year—a lighthouse in Seattle with Jess and the Portland Head Light in Maine with Jess and Tessa! 
23. Discover 5 new places in Richmond — I changed this challenge to: "Whenever I think a compliment about someone, tell them" and I'd say it's been achieved! 
24. Shoot + develop 5 new rolls of film — not achieved. So close!! Developed 4 rolls. 
25. Go on 25 bike rides — not achieved. I biked far over 25 miles, though! (Including 50+ miles as part of the Cap2Cap.) So I think that counts. 

All of the Books I Read in 2025

December 26, 2025


One of my 25 Hard Things in 2025 challenges was to read 50 books. Spoiler alert: I DID IT! Here are the 52 books I read in 2025 (emoji key below, click for a review of each book): 

       Standout favorites πŸ’–
  1. Peace is Every Step by Thich Nhat Hanh (March) ✨🧠
  2. James by Percival Everett (April) πŸ›️
  3. We Lived on the Horizon by Erika Swyler (May) πŸ³️‍🌈♒️
  4. Black Woods Blue Sky by Eowyn Ivey (May) πŸ’•♒️
  5. Do Not Say We Have Nothing by Madeleine Thien (May) 
  6. The Secret History by Donna Tartt (July) πŸ›️
  7. Vera, or Faith by Gary Shteyngart (July) 
  8. After the Ecstasy, the Laundry by Jack Kornfield (July) ✨🧠
  9. The King of a Rainy Country by Brigid Brophy (July) πŸ³️‍🌈
  10. Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed (September) ✨🧠
  11. Ninth House by Leigh Bardugo (September) πŸ‘»
  12. An Altar in the World: A Geography of Faith by Barbara Brown Taylor (September) ✨🧠
  13. Welcome to the Hyunam-Dong Bookshop by Hwang Bo-Reum (November) ♒️ 

    Books that made me go "hmm..."
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    1. The Safekeep by Yael Van Der Wouden (February) πŸ³️‍πŸŒˆπŸ’•
    2. Hope for Cynics by Jamil Zaki (February) πŸ§ 
    3. All About Love by bell hooks (March) πŸ§ 
    4. Learning to Walk in the Dark by Barbara Brown Taylor (April) ✨🧠
    5. Heroes of the Fourth Turning by Will Arbery (August) ♒️

      Plays 
      🎭
    6. Shakespeare's A Midsummer Night's Dream (April) ♒️
    7. Fences by August Wilson (July) 
    8. The Glass Menagerie by Tennessee Williams (July)
    9. A Streetcar Named Desire by Tennessee Williams (October)

      Shorter books, poetry, & collections πŸ’¨
    10. Call of the Wild and White Fang by Jack London (January) 
    11. Make Believe by Victoria Hutchins (March) 
    12. Bluets by Maggie Nelson (May) πŸ’•♒️
    13. Spent by Alison Bechdel (June) πŸ³️‍🌈
    14. So Late in the Day by Claire Keegan (June) πŸ‘»
    15. Atavists by Lydia Millet (July) ♒️
    16. American Bulk by Emily Mester (October) 🧠

      Books 
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    17. The White Book by Han Kang (January) ♒️
    18. Cat's Cradle by Kurt Vonnegut (January) 
    19. Femina by Janina Ramirez (January) πŸ§ 
    20. How to Fall in Love in a Time of Unnamable Disaster by Muriel Leung (February) πŸ³️‍πŸŒˆπŸ’•
    21. The Overnight Guest by Heather Gudenkauf (February) πŸ‘»
    22. Quicksand by Nella Larsen (March) πŸ›️♒️
    23. Aflame by Pico Iyer (April) ✨🧠
    24. Careless People by Sarah Wynn-Williams (April) πŸ§ 
    25. Having and Being Had by Eula Biss (April) πŸ˜•πŸ§ 
    26. The Float Test by Lynn Steger Strong (May) πŸ˜•
    27. We Were Made For These Times by Kaira Jewel Lingo (May) ✨🧠
    28. Second Life by Amanda Hess (May) πŸ§ πŸ˜•
    29. Searches: Selfhood in the Digital Age by Vauhini Vara (May) πŸ˜•πŸ§ 
    30. Let Only Red Flowers Bloom by Emily Feng (June) πŸ§ 
    31. Tess of the d'Urbervilles by Thomas Hardy (July) πŸ›️πŸ’•
    32. The South by Tash Aw (July) πŸ³️‍πŸŒˆπŸ’•
    33. How We Show Up by Mia Birdsong (August) ✨🧠
    34. Notes on Infinity by Austin Taylor (August) πŸ’•
    35. Wild Dark Shore by Charlotte McConaghy (September) πŸ‘»♒️
    36. The Extinction of Experience by Christine Rosen (October) πŸ§ 
    37. The Shift by Tinx (November) πŸ§ 
    38. Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism by ChΓΆgyam Trungpa (November) ✨🧠
    39. The Dead Zone by Stephen King (December) πŸ‘»
    ✨ = a spiritual read
    πŸ›️ = a classic (or one I think should be considered a classic) 
    🧠 = nonfiction
    🏳️‍🌈 = queer
    πŸ’• = romance-forward
    πŸ‘» = thriller / scary
    πŸ˜• = not my faves....
    ♒️ = books that felt very Aquarius to me OR books that were very vibe-forward 

    A recap by the numbers...
    • 38% of the books I read this year were nonfiction—a solid chunk, I think! 
    • 1 in 4 were standout favorites
    • 6 queer books—not enough! Making this much more of a conscious focus next year
    • 65% women authors—I didn't consciously make this decision, but nevertheless I'm pleased
    • 55% of my reading for the year was accomplished before July
    • 21% (11 books) of my reading happened between September and December...what an uneven split! The fall has been really Weird for me and this statistic is a fascinating indication of my priorities shifting radically...

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