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Kate's Perfect Day 2025

February 14, 2025


Another Kate's Perfect Day for the record books!

Last year, I was racking my brain trying to think of how to celebrate my birthday. I ended up planning a loose itinerary for my idea of the perfect day and invited my friends to join any part of it. That way, my loved ones can join for whatever activity floats their boat without obligation and, no matter what, I spend the day doing things that bring me joy. Thus, Kate's Perfect Day was born.

On Friday night, Tessa & Erin arrived for a gal's sleepover. We stayed up late gabbing and eating Cookout hushpuppies. The real excitement arrived early the next morning for the first item on KPD's itinerary: a Belle Isle walk.

A (mini) hike through the rain


Despite the weather, we discovered some telltale signs of spring along the walk. 

Hanging out with Chuck, the neighborhood cat



Unfortunately, the freezing rain that was half-droplets and half-fat snowflakes was hitting its stride just as we were heading out and our tiniest hiking club member was increasingly vocal about her meteorological displeasure. Erin, Tessa, Grace, and I made it as far as the Oregon Hill overlook and decided to turn around. Gravel was most grateful for the intervention. 

A coffee and a book shopping spree 

After we dropped Gravel back off at home to dry off (and secretly gnaw craters into my birthday cake, turns out!), we met my friend Allison at Blanchard's. Squeezed into a corner booth, we tucked into banoffee lattes and made like all former English majors do—caught up on all the hottest gossip about the department and raved about books we've been reading lately. (Tessa recently finished this book and I feel like I have to read it now so that we can talk about it....) 

Then, we came home for some valuable floor-sitting time before heading to Shelf Life. My friend Michael joined us, then, and we all spent at least an hour wandering through the packed stacks, petting the resident kitty cats, and talking me out of buying a patently absurd number of books. (I left with only 5! I think that's quite respectable. Allison picked up this one, which I have not been able to stop thinking about since.)

Nap time 

An incredibly vital moment in any version of Kate's Perfect Day. We ordered a giant cheese pizza and collapsed into a heap on the couch. 


The house wasn't still for very long, though! My friend Jess arrived—a wonderful surprise, considering she lives in Seattle—and more of my lovely friends continued to arrive, filling my house to bursting with love. 

Make-your-own-sushi adventure

As a sushi lover, I'm rather surprised I've never attempted to make it myself. I figured hosting a dinner party to make our own sushi was exactly the kind of messy chaos I was looking for on KPD. And honestly, for not having planned this part of the day out all that much, it went incredibly well! 

Everyone pitched in to help chop vegetables, prep sauces, and cook the rice. I set up an assembly line of ingredients, cracked open a bottle of prosecco, and played my best background CDs (a lot of Pavarotti and Carole King).




Cake and The Princess Bride

Riding high on the success of my make-your-own-sushi bar, we dug into my (homemade, tysm) two-layer sunset themed birthday cake and reorganized the living room so we could all snuggle in together to watch The Princess Bride. 

There are several movies I could probably quote front-to-back, but none as reliably as this one. My friend Jada had never seen The Princess Bride before and it was so. much. fun. to experience the movie through her fresh eyes—the gasps at the ROUSes! The cheering during the fights! The sighs during the kisses. A truly perfect movie. 

The criminal at the scene of her crime

And that was Kate's Perfect Day 2025! I went to sleep feeling swaddled in love and overfull of cake—what else could a girl want? I'm so grateful for everyone who could make it and for my friends who sent sweet messages. What a way to welcome year 27! 

A Chocolate Soufflé Kind of Weekend

February 5, 2025


Because sometimes you just have to stay up till midnight baking chocolate soufflé
(Scroll down for recipe)

Lately, my friends and family have been a balm for me; I've been feeling especially connected to them. A few weeks ago, one of my college BFFs, Tessa, came to stay for the long weekend. She's one of the smartest and most talented people I know, and she only lives 45 minutes down the road from me now! (A vast improvement from the multiple-states-away arrangement we had until the middle of last year.)

A real text I sent her before her arrival on Friday

We did all the usual best friend things—ran to Target for cookie dough and gummy bears, swore we were just looking when we popped into Barnes & Noble and somehow both ended up leaving with full bags, and spent a glorious two hours sipping tea at the Virginia Museum of Fine Art's gorgeous teahouse, Floris. We had also planned to pay a visit to Richmond's newest celebrity: Poppy, the zoo's newborn pygmy hippo. As it turns out, the Richmond Zoo follows in the grand Abrahamic tradition of observing the Sabbath. Alas, our date with Poppy will have to wait.


We also did a lot of cooking, which is not entirely typical for two girls who once lived on Fruity Pebbles, bread ends, and house dressing. A video of Lauren Sephton (@brightmomentco) making homemade fish and chips inspired me enough to try to overcome my longtime fear of deep frying, to success I'd say! Lauren's recipe is delicious and easy to follow—I highly recommend it for your next dinner night attempt. 

But we weren't done! For an extra-challenging encore, we picked up my copy of Claire Saffitz' sweet cookbook, What's for Dessert . Soufflé is notorious for being a difficult bake but even though we messed up some of the directions, our delicate chocolate confections turned out wonderfully! Claire's cookbook is perfect for baking novices—she makes everything, even the most difficult of recipes, digestible and provides important context about why things are done the way they are. 





Ingredients
  • 7 tbsp of sugar
  • 3 large egg yolks
  • 1/3 cup whole milk
  • 2 tbsp brewed coffee (I substituted espresso powder mixed in water)
  • 2 tbsp all-purpose flour
  • 2 tbsp unsweetened cocoa powder
  • 4 oz bittersweet chocolate (70% cacao), coarsely chopped (I used a dark chocolate bar)
  • 1 tsp vanilla extract
  • 5 large egg whites at room temperature
  • 1 tsp kosher salt (Claire makes a difference between Diamond Crystal and Morton kosher salt, only 1/2 tsp of the latter)
Steps
  1. Preheat the oven to 425 degrees Fahrenheit. 
  2. Brush the bottoms and sides of four 6 oz. ramekins with room temperature butter. Sprinkle the ramekins with sugar and shake to coat. 
  3. Prepare a pot with ~1 inch of water on the stove for a double boiler. In a medium heatproof bowl, whisk 3 tbsp of the sugar and 2 egg yolks together until combined. Slowly add the milk, whisking constantly, followed by the coffee. Add the flour and cocoa powder and whisk until smooth. 
  4. Put the bowl over the boiling water. Whisk constantly until it's thick like pancake batter and faintly holds the shape of the whisk, ~5-7 minutes. Remove from the heat at that point. 
  5. Add the chopped chocolate to the bowl and whisk to incorporate it, then set the bowl aside until the chocolate melts. Slowly whisk the mixture until smooth, then add the remaining egg yolk. (This is where Tessa and I messed up—we forgot to add the additional egg yolk until later! The mixture was incredibly dry and I thought all was lost, but adding the yolk fixed it entirely.) Pro tip: Don't let the chocolate cool to room temperature, or the chocolate will solidify. If that happens, rewarm the mixture over the double boiler until it's smooth.
  6. In a large, non-plastic bowl (another place I messed up—I used a plastic bowl!), combine the egg whites and salt and beat until the mixture is white and opaque. Then, slowly add the remaining 4 tbsp of sugar. Once all the sugar is added, beat until you have stiff peaks. 
  7. Scrape about one-third of the beaten egg whites into the bowl with the chocolate and whisk briskly to combine. Using a large, flexible spatula, fold int he remaining beaten egg whites in two additions until the mixture is almost entirely streak-free. 
  8. Scrape the batter into the prepared ramekins—they should be filled to the very top! 
  9. Lightly sprinkle the surfaces of the ramekins with sugar. Place the ramekins on a sheet pan and transfer to the oven, immediately reducing the oven temperature to 375 degrees Fahrenheit. Bake until the soufflés are risen, firm and springy but still have a small wobble, ~15-20 minutes. 
  10. Enjoy immediately! Claire also includes a recipe for a crème anglaise, but I found Trader Joe's whipped cream was the perfect companion (and much easier). 
Top image credit @_chloechloee

January 2025 Reads

February 1, 2025

 

Vignettes about beginnings and endings


The second Han Kang book I've picked up in the past three months (the first was The Vegetarian), The White Book will definitely not be the last I will read of Kang. This collection of meditations on whiteness—from the purity of newly fallen snow to the ripe swell of a firm peach to the thick drops of breastmilk that emerge even after a newborn's untimely death—spans the entirety of life itself, beginning to end and back again. And, in classic Kang style, the path between these two points is nonlinear at best. A read that is somehow both jolting and soothing all at once. 

Hemingway's snow-crazed, outdoorsy uncle


Another day, another missing piece of my American literary canon fit into place. As my 2024 obsession with Henry Hoke's Open Throat and Emily Habeck's Shark Heart: A Love Story will attest, stories from the POV of animals have really been my jam lately. The setting feels alive and throbbing in London's writing—I found myself shivering even though I was curled up on a cozy couch in Florida while reading! In Call of the Wild, a spoiled family pet finds himself trafficked to the wintery forests of Canada to labor for the first time in his life, discovering the unalienable-if-dormant ancestral instincts within him. In White Fang, a wild dog-wolf hardens himself to the world as he finds himself horrifically mistreated at the hands of his human masters, at least until he finds his forever home with a benevolent soul. 

Reading the novel literally—a relatively easy task when the prose is so straightforward and (I don't mean this as an insult) simple, rather like Hemingway, a noted London descendent—is the most enjoyable, IMO. The humans of Jack London's fiction are mostly half-baked caricatures and it is all too easy to see how schools of thought that promote any notion of "alpha male" masculinity ala the manosphere could find easy fodder in his pages (you know...if they ever actually read a book). And though these ideas are hardcoded into London's writerly DNA, his works are hardly agenda-pushing creations (a line Hemingway toed, crossed, and hammered multiple times over). Darwinism and white male supremacy aside, these stories are a great read. 

The pinnacle of absurd thought


If Kurt Vonnegut published Cat's Cradle for the first time in 2025, the front jacket quote from N+1 editors would call it "blisteringly original" while the New York Times book review section would ignore it completely. Somehow, I think that would make Vonnegut smile.

I honestly don't know if I can describe the events of this book without spoiling the joy of reading it...In no particular order, Vonnegut's story weaves through the apocalypse, a cult island, a university science lab, an airplane tiki bar, and, of course, deep into the heart of the Hoosier diaspora. He explores meaning, life, love, God, humanity, and morality, though if you've read any Vonnegut before, you already knew that. Fair warning: If you're not a fan of toes and/or feet, certain passages of this book will be difficult for you. 

A tapestry of medieval women


Over the course of the three-day weekend celebrating the legacy of Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., my friend Tessa and I made fish and chips from scratch, baked chocolate soufflé, and binged approximately 2 full seasons of Netflix's The Last Kingdom. (I refuse to watch the final few episodes + movie because I do not want the show to end.) This delightful anecdote is relevant because The Last Kingdom is set during the early Middle Ages in (soon-to-be) England when King Alfred the Great is battling Vikings in his attempt to unify the various British kingdoms. A key figure in the narrative of The Last Kingdom and of real life history is Æthelflæd, Alfred's daughter and the sole female ruler in the history of Anglo-Saxon kingdoms.

Æthelflæd is one of the women Janina Ramirez highlights in her wonderful exploration of women's medieval history. Even if only in passing, I've heard of Alfred the Great before. Ã†thelflæd was a new name for me as I know it is for countless others and through her book, Ramirez is trying her damndest to fix that needless recognition gap! She not only examines the actual archeological clues and unfurls dense academic explorations of women's history in a manner that makes it digestible and fun for her audience, Ramirez's writing style is particularly well suited to her niche. She forges connections across various periods of history and genre (indeed, one of her chapters about a prominent Middle Age heroine begins with the story of a British suffragette in the early 1900s) without ever obscuring her true point. She does get a little into the weeds as the chapters go on, but it's a mark of her genuine passion that I find quite refreshing.

Sapphic cabin fever


One of the testimonials on the back of this book calls Yael Van Der Wouden's work, "Portrait of a Lady on Fire if it were directed by Hitchcock" and it feels pretty fitting. (I will also say, in the vein of being an honest book reviewer, I do not believe I have ever seen a Hitchcock film, familiar as I am with the general aesthetic of his oeuvre.) I read this book entirely in one sitting and less than 100 pages into it, I was texting my fellow book nerds to rave about it. 

It's not that my excitement was premature, exactly, but I was less enamored with the resolution of this book than I was with the beginning and rising action of it all. (I am also not unconvinced that reading the entire novel in one sitting was detrimental to my opinion—like good bread, opinions usually need time to rise, stretch, and develop and reading an entire novel in less than 3 hours usually prevents that.) Set in the post-WWII Netherlands, an aloof sister is forced to share her house with her irresponsible younger brother's flighty girlfriend for a summer and the pages practically crackle like the air brewing one of those classic summer thunderstorms. The slow tension and moments of unexplained absurdity sprinkled throughout function as Easter eggs for those of us ~in the know~ (aka women who love women). 

The majority of this book is slow and delicious and makes me want to press my cheek against the page to be even that much closer to the words. And then...the resolution feels like it happens extremely quickly and is relatively drama-free? Maybe I am suffering from #queerreadertrauma in wanting us to have to suffer a little more by the end. I also didn't love Van Der Wouden's decision to give us a glimpse of an entirely new perspective (an entire narrative shift) exclusively through quick diary entries. It reminded me a bit of Lulu's chapter in Jennifer Egan's The Candy House, another decision that felt awkward to me. I rarely think books or movies should be longer than they are (RIP 90 minute films) but this story could've benefitted from being ~50 pages longer, IMO. I still purchased the paperback on preorder because I want it as a permanent part of my collection. 

Apocalyptic existentialism, but make it magical realism

Brave of me to tackle a novel about living through the apocalypse at this particular moment in time, I think. Less brave than Muriel Leung for dedicating (I'm sure) years of her life to writing it, but I digress. This Only Murders in the Building-esque ensemble story takes place (mostly) within the walls of an apartment building as the world is literally crumbling around them. Acid rainstorms are showering New York City in a blistering hellfire every Tuesday. Supplies and morale are running questionably low, but paranormal activity has never been higher as ghosts begin to flood back to the building much as the tenants themselves seek shelter there. 

A semi-closeted queer woman named Mira, her mother, their neighbor Lucinda, a headless man called Sad, and Sin, the ghost of a gay cockroach, are only a few of the characters that populate the forged community that comes together in the wake of, well, unnameable disaster. As Leung herself phrases it, "A disaster oftentimes refers to a big momentous thing that happens once and then everyone suffers the repercussions of it...But what happens if disaster is an incessant event that happens every Tuesday?”

Top image credit @des.sidster

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3 Memoirs by Women to Welcome 2025

January 5, 2025


Sometimes, I wonder if I love memoirs so much because I'm naturally introspective and a fan of the genre...or if I'm just a nosy yenta.

Either way, I love memoir. In the latter half of 2024, I read three memoirs written by women that I'm still thinking about. In my opinion, one (or all!) of these three memoirs would evoke the best vibes for welcoming the new year, depending on what you're looking for in 2025.

For the pleasure-seekers


As I wrote in my Instagram review, I think everyone (and everyone's mom) should read this book. For years, Glynnis (a 40-something, single & child-free writer) has spent one month every summer subletting a flat in Paris and living her best life. Obviously, the pandemic put a wrench in these plans, but as lockdown restrictions start to lift, she returns to the City of Lights in pursuit of absolute pleasure.

Glynnis' descriptions of cycling through a shuttered city, indulging in freshly baked bread and creamy cheese alongside her tribe of fellow fabulous forty-somethings, and the steamy encounters she has with Parisian men have the decadence and staying power of a high quality chocolate truffle; the flavor of her words coats the tongue and stays even after you walk away from the book. 

This is not merely ("merely") a hedonists delight, though. Glynnis is a thoughtful, well-read author who deftly directs our attention outwards, capturing larger ideas and trends, and inwards, to expose potentially high-risk elements of herself. She always has skin in the game, a must for a writer attempting to provide Social Commentary as they also self reflect. The section when she carefully illuminates the absurd particularities of Gen-Z/Gen-Alpha through her interactions with a younger writer is a particular favorite of mine in a book full of favorites.

7/5 -- one of my favorite books of the year

For the commune dreamers


I'm not sure if it's a particular facet of this generation (or perhaps just the echo chamber I've encased myself within), but I'd say the majority of my friends and I have seriously contemplated some variation of group living as one indication of having a joyful and successful adulthood, which is pretty subversive in a society that has overly isolated ourselves in the name of independence for generations. 

Lola is the rare example of someone who is living that dream for herself! This memoir/cookbook offers a glimpse of what group living can and does look like in several different ways, from her own place sharing a house with roommates and family to intentionally planned shared communities—the 21st century take on the (mostly failed) communes of the 60s and 70s. Lola digs into the history of group living a tad, too, which is a refreshing add! 

4.5/5 -- moments that drag, but they're brief

For the grief-stricken


2024 brought a lot of unexpected grieving to my life and I delayed picking Joan's novel up for months because I wanted so desperately to escape the intensity of my feelings and I figured such a quintessential novel about grief would only remind me of the sludge I was already trudging through.

I was wrong. Joan's novel is a portrait of immense grieving that made me feel less alone and adrift on my own emotional flotsam. Joan's husband of 40 years died at their dining room table one night in December, in the midst of their daughter's own multi-month health crisis. Joan describes leaving Quintana in her room in the ICU to return home with John, only to accompany him back to the hospital hours later in the ambulance. 

In her classic Didion style (I am a fan, to say the least), Joan probes the gnawing beast that is all-consuming grief and explores the eponymous "magical thinking" of the title. In doing so, she manages to remind her readers that grief is, primarily, love interrupted. It made me feel better about the new superstitions and rituals that have come to structure my life in the wake. 

5/5

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25 Hard Things in 2025

January 1, 2025


Though I achieved rather middling success with my 24 Hard Things in 2024 goals, I've signed myself up for another year of exciting challenges!

25 Hard Things in 2025!
1.Master the alphabet + a basic conversation in ASL
2. Swim 25 miles 
3. Go camping 5 times 
4. Read 50 books
5. Feel confident playing 5 songs on the piano 
6. Take 5 Italian lessons
7. Take 1 solo vacation 
8. Watch 25 documentaries
9. Bake 25 loaves of bread
10. Do 1 volunteer shift somewhere in person
11. Try 25 new recipes
12. Read 3 books in Italian
13. Host a dinner party
14. Send 25 letters or postcards
15. Find my mat every day
16. Visit my grandfather 5 times
17. Pay off my student loan
18. Watch 25 “classic” movies
19. Publish 25 blog posts
20. Forgive myself 25 times 
21. Go to a fair (ren fair, state fair….)
22. Visit a lighthouse
23. Discover 5 new places in Richmond
24. Shoot + develop 5 new rolls of film 
25. Go on 25 bike rides 

Some of these are repeat goals (documentaries, books), but I tried to be as original as possible! I want to be more intentional about my hobbies like baking bread (for which I just received a bread machine for Christmas!!), swimming, being a pen pal, camping, and playing piano. 

What resolutions have you set for 2025? 

24 Hard Things in 2024: A Year in Review

December 29, 2024

Gravel & I arriving in Seattle after 2+ weeks of driving + camping! 

At the beginning of the year, I shared my 24 Hard Things in 2024 challenge. Before I finalize my resolutions for 2025, I thought I'd revisit and reflect on that list.

24 Hard Things in 2024:

  1. Go camping — achieved! Gravel and I are camping pros at this point. Earlier this year, we spent over a month driving from Richmond to Seattle and back, camping at national parks (including the Grand Canyon!), KOAs, and secret hideaways along the way.
  2. Finish my thesis — achieved! I successfully defended my thesis and graduated in May. 
  3. Bake 1 new kind of bread every month — not achieved.  Life became entirely too hectic with my school, work, yoga, and life responsibilities to maintain my focus on this one after baking a delicious chocolate peppermint loaf in January. 
  4. Take 24 photos with Mary that are frame-worthy — potentially achieved? Didn't formally track this one enough to know for sure.
  5. Go 24 consecutive days without social media — achieved! I found a great deal of peace this year deleting Instagram off my phone and only downloading when I specifically want to post or view something. 
  6. Read 50 books — not achieved
  7. Go outside everyday — mostly achieved! 
  8. Visit my grandfather more often — not achieved
  9. Practice 24 minutes of meditation every week — potentially achieved? I stopped tracking my mat time in such a specific and linear fashion early in the year because I found that it had a negative impact on my presence in general. 
  10. Devote each month to the practice & intentional reflection of a yama or niyama (January is ahimsa—non-harming) — not achieved. I plan to revisit this challenge next year after absolutely devouring Nischala Joy Devi's The Secret Power of Yoga this year which has reframed my understanding of the yamas and niyamas. 
  11. Try 24 new recipes — achieved!
  12. Go on 24 bike rides — mostly achieved! I cannot wait to get back out onto my bike again when the days start to lengthen again. 
  13. Take an art class — achieved! Mary gifted me two classes at a local pottery studio in celebration of my successful thesis defense—sooo messy and great fun.
  14. Go swimming 24 times — mostly achieved! 
  15. Go 24 days without watching TV (extra challenge: consecutively) — not achieved
  16. Wear everything I already own (including shoes), or donate it — not achieved
  17. Go on 24 runs — not achieved.  I'm not sure who I was when I put this on my list but....LOL. Maybe 2025 will be the year I finally admit to myself that I am not a runner.
  18. Eat 24 fruits and 24 vegetables — mostly achieved! I'm confident I achieved this one, but I got tired of tracking sometime in early summer. 
  19. Designate Fridays as the 1 day a week to purchase things online — mostly achieved! 
  20. Have 24 incredible meals — potentially achieved?
  21. Publish a paper in a literary journal — not achieved. I'm proud of myself for working up the courage to submit one proposal in response to a CFP! 
  22. Watch 24 documentaries — not achieved
  23. Go on an intentional fast — not achieved
  24. List every dessert I enjoy, for posterity + 104 desserts challenge (my take on this— not achieved

For the most part, the things I didn't achieve on this list don't bother me! For challenges like the 24 documentaries or 50 books, I didn't hit that goal number but I greatly enjoyed the books and documentaries that I did consume! And that's the whole point of the challenge. Onto 2025! 

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